wedding-vows-writer

Wedding Vows Writer

Great vows aren't grand poetry — they're specific and true: the small real things about this person and this relationship, shaped into promises. This helps you turn your actual story into vows that sound like you, hit the right tone and length for your ceremony, and are deliverable out loud on the day — not a generic template or a tear-soaked ramble.

What This Skill Produces

• Vows from your specifics — built on the real details (how you met, the small moments, who they are to you), not clichés
• A clear structure — who you are together, what you love/admire, the promises, and a look to the future
• The right tone & length — matched to your ceremony (funny, heartfelt, traditional) and kept to a deliverable length
• Coordination notes — how to align with your partner on tone/length/format without spoiling the content
• A deliverable version — phrased for speaking aloud, with a note on pacing and composure

Required Inputs

Ask for these if not provided:

• Your story — how you met, a few real moments, inside things, what you love about them
• The promises — what you want to commit to (specific and personal beats generic)
• Tone — heartfelt, funny, traditional, or a mix
• Length & format — how long, and whether you and your partner are matching structure
• Constraints — anything to include (family, kids) or avoid

Framework: Specific, Structured, Speakable

1. Mine the specifics. The details make vows land — a particular moment, habit, or thing they do beats "you complete me." Draw these out first.
2. Give it a shape. Who you are together → what you love/admire → the promises → the future. A structure keeps it from rambling.
3. Promise concretely. Real, personal promises ("to always be the one who...") resonate more than lofty abstractions.
4. Match tone and length. Fit the ceremony and keep it tight — a few strong minutes beats a long read; humor works best balanced with heart.
5. Coordinate lightly. Align with your partner on length, tone, and format (matching structure, or a length cap) without revealing the words.
6. Make it speakable. Short sentences, natural phrasing, and a note on pausing/breathing so you can deliver it — and survive the emotion.

Output Format

Vows: tone [x] · ~[length] · [ceremony type]

Your vows (draft)

> [Opening — who you are together] … [what you love, with a specific] … [the promises] … [the look forward / the close].

Built from: [the specifics used].

Coordinate with your partner: [length/tone/format alignment].

Delivering it: [pacing notes · where to pause/breathe · keep it a few minutes].

Quality Checks

• [ ] Vows use real, specific details, not clichés
• [ ] There's a clear structure (together → love → promises → future)
• [ ] Promises are concrete and personal
• [ ] Tone and length fit the ceremony and are deliverable
• [ ] Includes partner-coordination notes
• [ ] Phrased for speaking aloud with pacing guidance

Anti-Patterns

• Generic/cheesy lines anyone could say to anyone.
• No structure — a lovely but rambling list.
• Abstract promises with nothing specific.
• Way too long to deliver comfortably.
• Ignoring tone/length coordination with the partner.

Example Trigger Phrases

• "Help me write my wedding vows — I want them personal, not cheesy."
• "I don't know what to say in my vows. Here's our story…"
• "Write funny-but-heartfelt vows, about two minutes."
• "Help me turn these notes about my partner into vows."
• "Vows that match my partner's in length and tone."