meeting-room-etiquette

Meeting Room Etiquette Skill

Office friction lives in the commons: rooms booked-and-empty while teams huddle in hallways, the hybrid call where the room forgets the remote half exists, the kitchen that becomes a passive-aggressive noticeboard. These are [working-agreements](../working-agreements/SKILL.md) problems at building scale — solved the same way: a few observable norms derived from the actual frictions, made visible where the friction happens (the room's door, the kitchen's wall), and enforced by structure (release timers, checklists) rather than by anyone having to be the hall monitor — because norms that require a cop get one, and everyone hates the cop more than the problem.

What This Skill Produces

• The norms card per space — rooms, hybrid rooms, kitchen/commons — 3–5 observable rules each, posted at the friction point
• The ghost-booking fix — the release rule (10 minutes unclaimed = free, said on the door) plus the calendar hygiene norms
• The hybrid-room checklist — the five moves that stop remote attendees from being wall decorations
• The enforcement design — structural (timers, defaults, checklists) over social (nobody polices); the escalation for the rare real abuser

Required Inputs

Ask for these if not provided:

• The actual frictions — the recurring complaints (ghost bookings? Meeting overruns? The dishes?) — norms derive from real friction or they're laminated wishes ([working-agreements](../working-agreements/SKILL.md) derivation rule, spatial edition)
• The space inventory — rooms and their booking system's capabilities (auto-release features exist in most and are configured in few — the highest-leverage checkbox in office ops)
• The hybrid reality — how many meetings are mixed, the rooms' AV state; the checklist assumes real equipment or names the gap
• The culture's temperature — a norms card lands differently in a 30-person startup vs. a 500-person floor; the tone calibrates, the structures don't

Framework: The Commons Rules

1. Norms are observable and posted at the point: "release the room if the booker's 10 minutes late" lives on the door — rules posted in a wiki govern the wiki. Three to five per space; the card that tries to legislate everything gets read as wallpaper ([channel-hygiene](../channel-hygiene/SKILL.md) pin logic, physical edition).
2. Ghost bookings die by structure: the booking system's auto-release (unclaimed after 10 min → freed) does what no norm can — configure it where it exists; where it doesn't, the door card's release rule deputizes everyone politely ("10 minutes unclaimed? It's yours — that's the rule, not a confrontation"). The recurring-hold audit ([standing-meeting-audit](../standing-meeting-audit/SKILL.md) for rooms: the weekly hold whose meeting died months ago) runs quarterly.
3. Hybrid rooms run the checklist, owned by the host: remote faces on the big screen (not a laptop angled at the ceiling) · one room mic that works (tested — the [demo-script](../demo-script/SKILL.md) pre-flight logic) · the host names a remote advocate ("watch the hand-raises") · in-room side conversations die (the mic can't untangle them) · screen-shares go through the call, not the room's cable. Five moves; the difference between hybrid and hostage.
4. Overruns end at the door: the next booker's arrival is the ending bell — the norm makes it non-awkward ("rooms turn over on the hour; the arriving team owns the space") — plus the scheduling hygiene that prevents most collisions: default 25/50-minute meetings ([agenda-or-cancel](../agenda-or-cancel/SKILL.md) lengths) leave the turnover gap the hour-long default steals.
5. Enforcement is defaults, not deputies: every norm rides a structure (the auto-release, the checklist on the hybrid room's table, the 25/50 calendar default set org-wide) — structure enforces without anyone confronting anyone. The rare chronic abuser is a [working-agreements](../working-agreements/SKILL.md) violation handled as one: named privately by their manager, not policed publicly by peers — the commons stays cop-free because the escalation path exists.

Output Format

Space Norms: [office/floor]

The Cards (posted at each friction point)

Rooms: [3–5 rules incl. the release rule] · Hybrid rooms: [the checklist, on the table] · Kitchen/commons: [the 3 that matter]

The Structural Layer

[Auto-release configured (or the door-card fallback) · 25/50 defaults org-wide · the quarterly ghost-hold audit]

The Hybrid Checklist (table card)

[Faces on screen · mic tested · remote advocate named · no side-talk · share via call]

Enforcement Design

[Structure-first mapping: norm → its default/timer/checklist · the chronic-case path (manager, private) · no hall monitors, by design]

Quality Checks

• [ ] Every norm is observable and posted where its friction happens
• [ ] Auto-release is configured or its door-card fallback deputizes politely
• [ ] The hybrid checklist lives in the room and the host owns it
• [ ] Every norm has a structural enforcer; none require a peer cop
• [ ] The chronic-abuser path routes to managers, privately

Anti-Patterns

• [ ] Do not legislate from the wiki — the door card governs the door
• [ ] Do not solve ghost bookings with shame — the auto-release checkbox beats every passive-aggressive note ever written
• [ ] Do not run hybrid meetings without the advocate — the remote half goes decorative in minutes
• [ ] Do not deputize peers as police — structure enforces; humans just follow defaults
• [ ] Do not write ten kitchen rules — three that matter, or the card becomes the noticeboard it replaced