decision-when-tired

Decision When Tired

Tired brains make bad decisions — impulsive, pessimistic, or whatever's easiest — and then live with them. The best protocol when depleted is usually don't decide yet. This first checks whether the decision can wait; if it genuinely can't, it walks you to a safe-enough choice with minimal thinking: default to the reversible option, dodge the known tired-brain traps, and apply a simple rule rather than deep analysis you can't do right now.

What This Skill Produces

• The can-it-wait check — the first and best question: does this actually need deciding now, or can it wait for a rested brain?
• The tired-brain trap flags — the predictable ways exhaustion distorts choices (impulse-buying, catastrophizing, picking the easy-not-right option, saying yes to make it stop)
• The safe-enough path — if it can't wait, a low-effort route to a reasonable choice (favor reversible, satisfice, use a rule)
• A simple decision rule — a heuristic to apply instead of analysis you don't have the energy for
• A do-not-decide list — the choices to explicitly defer until rested

Required Inputs

Ask for these if not provided:

• The decision — what you're trying to choose
• The real deadline — does it truly need deciding now, or does it just feel that way
• How depleted you are — mildly tired or completely fried
• Reversibility — can the choice be undone or changed later

Framework: First, Don't Decide

1. Ask if it can wait. The strongest move is usually to defer — most "urgent" decisions can survive until morning. Push hard on this first.
2. Flag the tired traps. Name how exhaustion is likely skewing this — toward the impulsive, the pessimistic, or the easiest-to-end-the-discomfort option.
3. Favor reversible. If a choice must be made now, bias hard toward the option you can undo — it caps the downside of a bad tired call.
4. Satisfice, don't optimize. Good-enough beats perfect when you can't think clearly; use a simple rule, not deep analysis.
5. Protect the big ones. Explicitly refuse to make major, irreversible decisions while depleted — put them on the do-not-decide-now list.

Output Format

Decision: [what you're choosing] · depletion: [level]

Can it wait? [yes → defer to when rested: that's the answer] / [no → continue].

Tired-brain traps right now: [impulse / catastrophizing / easy-not-right / yes-to-end-it].

If you must choose now: favor [the reversible option] · apply this rule: [simple heuristic].

Do NOT decide tonight: [any big/irreversible choices → wait].

Quality Checks

• [ ] Leads with "can this wait?" as the primary move
• [ ] Flags the specific tired-brain distortions at play
• [ ] Biases toward reversible options if a choice is forced
• [ ] Offers a simple rule instead of demanding analysis
• [ ] Explicitly defers major/irreversible decisions

Anti-Patterns

• Demanding careful analysis from a fried brain.
• Not offering the "just wait" option first.
• Letting a big irreversible choice get made while depleted.
• Ignoring how exhaustion is skewing the choice.

Example Trigger Phrases

• "I'm exhausted and need to decide something — help."
• "Should I even make this decision tonight?"
• "I can't think straight but I have to choose. Help me not mess it up."
• "I'm fried — is this a decide-now or a decide-later?"
• "Help me pick something safe, I'm too tired to think."